Gay Porn Star Raped by Army Captain

Wednesday, October 8th, 2008

I couldn’t even finish reading the descriptions of gay porn star Mason Wyler’s vicious rape (warning: site is in and of itself NSFW, and this entry perhaps doubly so). The images posted on Queerclick and Mason’s own site (also very NSFW) tell enough of the story. For those who want to get details but don’t want to end up on a gay porn site, I suggest this blog, although the graphic images of Mason’s wounds may still be not safe for work.

So let me add my own voice to those who are saying that being a sex worker in the porn industry does not excuse rape. Being a self-described “cock hungry slut” or admittedly promiscuous does not excuse rape. Being gay and sexually active does not excuse rape.

Do not, do not, DO NOT, tell me that anything Mason has ever done in his life, any decision he has ever made, or any aspect of his personality or sexual life means that “he deserved it” or that “he should have expected it.” Rape is never deserved (and, yes, that goes for child molesters, too… they should be punished, rehabilitated if possible, locked away if not, but even they don’t deserve rape). Sexual violence should never be expected as a consequence of any action or inaction.

Gay rape has long been ignored by both the queer community and the larger community. We make prison rape into a joke or dismiss it as deserved punishment. It is neither. I know from firsthand experience that some people, even fellow queers, believe that men either can’t be raped or that they should know how to fight back and stop the assault. Being the victim of rape seems to be an assault on both your person and your status as a male, and there’s a social emasculation of male rape victims of the most sexist and offensive variety, especially those who dare speak out.

I understand why Mason has tried to protect his privacy while also trying to convince the public of the truth of his story. It must be an unimaginably difficult road to walk, especially in the wake of such a violent attack and the psyche-shattering experience.

I’ve written before about my own experience with rape, and I don’t want to bring it up again, especially as we near the anniversary of that awful experience, but my heart truly goes out to Mason. I will admit that I’ve seen and enjoyed his performances in the past, and I make no judgment about sex workers and how they earn a living. Mason is a great adult performer and I will count myself among his fans. I wish him a speedy and healthy physical recovery and hope that he will be surrounded and supported by people who love him through the more difficult psychological recovery.

Filed under: personal, queer rights by Jere Keys

5 Responses to “Gay Porn Star Raped by Army Captain”

  1. JJJJ, on October 9th, 2008 at 2:35 pm Said:

    I think this “rape” was all a wonderfully inented fantasy on Wyler’s part.

  2. Jere, on October 10th, 2008 at 12:13 am Said:

    Yes, JJJJ, you and numerous others. I’m willing to believe him until sufficient evidence convinces me otherwise. 60% of sexual assaults are not reported to the police. Your comment, putting the victim on trial, discourages victims from coming forward and telling their story.

    Sure, false accusations are a terrible thing, and they happen, and they destroy lives.

    But in this case, independent reporters from GayVN have confirmed that there is a police report – lending credibility to Wyler’s claims.

  3. JJJJ, on October 11th, 2008 at 2:12 am Said:

    The most I’ll believe is that Wyler was in a rough sex scene with a guy who went beyond what Wyler was expecting, so he called the police afterwards. And don’t fall into the trap of believing any criticism of anyone who makes an accusation is “blaming the victim.” Sometimes there is no victim (except for the person falsely-accused). Needless to say, there are some REAL cases of sexual assault on males (Keith Chester Hill of Baytown, Texas, who had a penchant for Caucasian heterosexual males).

  4. Eric Van Singleton, on February 24th, 2009 at 7:16 pm Said:

    I hope Mayson Wyler recovers from this experience. If he were a women, I don’t think we would be having this much discussion. As a person who has clearly been hurt, he deserves our compassion and our prayers. I am sorry that he has suffered this dreadful experience, and I think we should care about him enough to not blame him for it. I pray that he has people in his life to love him enough to help him heal.

  5. LENZY1980@GMAIL.COM, on April 23rd, 2010 at 2:25 pm Said:

    My heart goes out to you.. you see i two have been raped on more than one occasion. the first time i said something everyone made it seem my fault from the police to family so for a long time i never said anything about it. it has gotten easier but men still make me nervouse. ( and god i love men) you see being gay black and not very mas at all .. some said i asked for it. having a flurtatious demeanor and friendly attitude some said i must have approached them. (two men at gun point after leaving a club one night) you know my family still has never asked me if i was alright was told to just get over it. i love them but damn… ya know..
    i truly pray that things are going in a better direction for you now emotionally.. fuck what they say about your job ( do what you do) but i would love to hear how things are going with you.
    and please understand there are some of us out here who understand to some degree of what it is like. i never said anything the other times (boyfriends and while in prison for 6 months) out of the fear and pain that again it would just be said that it was my fault.
    sorry i ramble on you have your own story to tell .. thanks for reading some of mine..
    may you and yours be blessed
    lenzy
    was this man ever caught?

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